The authoritative parenting style has been proven to have the most positive effect on children. If you are wondering what authoritative parenting it, it is a parent that is flexible, consistent, and seeks to build a strong connection with their child with proper discipline and teaching opportunities. Compare that to the two other styles authoritarian and permissive. Authoritarian is very strict, think "my way or the high way." Permissive parenting is negligent; they allow children to make their own rules, and they don't discipline.
When you look at the intents behind each parenting style, it becomes clear that authoritarian and permissive are selfish in that they are focused on what the parent wants. Authoritative is built around and focused on the child and seeking what is best for the child.
An authoritative parent is working with the child to develop courage, responsibility, cooperation, and respect. To be authoritative one must have high connection (intimacy), high regulation (rules), and high autonomy (granting permission/choices). Children raised with authoritative parents grow up with greater confidence and self-esteem, as well as independence.
This is definitely the parenting style I plan to incorporate in my home when I have children. I have learned that authoritative parenting follows our Heavenly Father's example of parenting. He has high expectations and rules, but he gives us the ability to chose. As we seek him, we will develop a greater connection and closeness with our Father. Authoritative parenting is the the ultimate goal.
